Healing A Broken Heart: The Scientific Benefits of Finding Your Frequency

Thinking about our past pains and heart breaks is tough, but new research about our heart-brain frequencies provides a radical approach to our healing process. 

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Let’s face it, we’ve all been there. 

A broken heart is devastating — whether you’re 15 or 90. As therapists, we have been dealing with matters of the heart for decades with only limited success. Deciphering this elusive and mysterious part of being human is challenging, but the good news is that we finally have some tools to assist us.

These new revelations originate from fascinating new research at the Heart Math Institute. Their findings provide us with useable scientific information that is a game-changer for the field of therapy.

The fact is, the heart sends more information to the brain than the brain sends to the heart. The role of the heart as it evokes emotions is now scientifically proven to have more significance than the brain. Think about that for a minute:

The heart actually signals the brain to emit certain emotions. 

Many of us in the mental health profession have always assumed that emotions originate in the brain. But according to research at the Heart Math Institute: “The heart’s input to the brain during stressful or negative emotions also has a profound effect on the brain’s emotional processes — actually serving to reinforce the emotional experience of stress.” Basically, that means that an emotional exchange, in the form of frequency, occurs between the heart and the brain.

Now that we know from a physical perspective how a ‘broken heart’ exists, what can we do about it? How do we attempt to heal it?

Science is giving us a clue — and it involves a term called coherence. Coherence involves sustaining or maintaining positive emotions. According to research, maintaining or sustaining positive emotions profoundly affects how we perceive, think, feel, and perform.

In other words, the new age authors and ancient seers had it right. Mindfulness, or an awareness of positive thoughts, creates what scientists are calling coherence.

When these coherent, positive frequencies are practiced and maintained, healing can take place.

It all points back to the benefits of positive thinking. Theories espoused in the Law of Attraction and the book and documentary known as The Secret, explain the benefit of this kind of thinking. And now, science is actually backing up this powerful concept about the benefits of positive thoughts.

According to scientists at Heart Math, the human heart’s magnetic field can be measured several feet away from the body and emotions can be measured as a frequency, similar to radio waves. In essence, sustaining positive emotions can actually affect the way we react and perceive our everyday lives. 

All of us have this built-in potential for healing our emotional wounds — and it’s all about accessing our own frequency.

As seasoned psychotherapists, we realized the importance of these frequencies and its influence in the counseling setting, but we had to reevaluate the way we practiced talk therapy. Specifically, does talk therapy, which involves processing negative (past) emotions over and over again until they are released, help to alleviate the intensity of the emotional past negative experiences? Or are we therapists, albeit well-intended, actually reinforcing the emotional response of stress, the opposite of coherence? 

The change to a new positive way of thinking about a negative, past relationship is hard work, but the understanding of theories associated with heart-brain frequencies as a real and proven radical approach in the healing process makes it worth the effort. All that is required is will and determination.

Here are a few short exercises to tap into coherence:

• Close your eyes and find your pulse by placing two fingers on the side of your neck. Feel for the rhythmic beat of the strong carotid artery. Spend a few minutes sensing the rhythm. Be in tune with it. 

• Next, place your two fingers on the underside of the wrist. Just contemplate it. Begin to feel its rhythm. Tune into its beat. Notice how you automatically become calmer. 

• Next, begin to associate the rhythm with its source: the heart. Visualize the pulsing heart as it beats. Or, if you prefer, you can picture the universal heart symbol. Imagine your heart beating. Sense the love you feel. 

• Now, tap into the frequency of compassion and empathy. Feel with all of your senses. Evoke these emotions by imagining your beloved dog, cat or possibly an act of unconditional kindness from someone. 

• Next, place your fingers, or the palm of your hand, over your heart. Even though the sense of rhythm is fainter, contemplate the vibration, the frequency your heart emanates. Start to pay more attention to your heart. 

• Once the focus is on your heart, imagine your heart becoming in sync with your mind. This coherence is creating a sense of peace. As you contemplate the coherence, visualize the connection you have created. 

• Next, drop your fingers, still paying close attention to your heartbeat. Sense it; feel it; hear it. Contemplate and just be. Stay with it for a few minutes, then a few minutes more.

Practicing this short exercise, along with the repetition of positive thoughts, can be an effective tool for mending negative experiences. It only takes a few minutes but its impact on revealing a brighter future is immeasurable — and it requires no expensive visits to your therapist’s office.

Do we professionals have all of the answers? Certainly not, but science is making great strides in understanding the role emotions play in our lives. It has been said throughout history that all humans react out of love or fear. If these heart-centered emotions dictate the way in which we live our lives, then certainly an understanding of healing these emotions from a perspective of frequency is worth exploring.  

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