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An intuitive and healer channels her own life experience to help others find transformational healing by connecting with their inner child
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At Best Self, we are constently exploring modalities for healing. It was a delight to discover the work of Christina Prokos, an intuitive and healer whose practice is rooted in reconnecting with the inner child. We knew we had to learn more, and invited her to contibute to this revealing Q&A. May you find yourself inspired to do a little healing work yourself! — Bill Miles, Co-Founder, Best Self Magazine.
Q: Hi Christina, we’re thrilled to share your insights with our Best Self audience. Can you please begin by sharing your personal connection to healing and why it has become a mission of yours to guide others in their healing journey?
My personal mission is rooted in a deeply transformative journey, one where I initially found myself overwhelmed by my own intuitive gifts. For much of my life, I struggled to align with my desires, feeling as though I was a victim of circumstances beyond my control. The anxieties that accompanied my intuitive abilities grew stronger, clouding my sense of direction and purpose. My life wasn’t what I envisioned, and the weight of this disconnect became more and more apparent.
It wasn’t until I reached a point where I had no choice but to lean into my intuition that everything shifted. I began to truly listen to the quiet, inner guidance that had always been there, waiting for me to acknowledge it. As I surrendered to this process, profound changes started to unfold, both within myself and in the external world around me. This marked the beginning of a deep inspiration to help others navigate their own paths to healing.
I trusted my intuition to lead me to where I was needed, offering insights I had gained along the way. This commitment to self-trust eventually guided me to a deeper understanding of trauma, particularly the unmet needs of the inner child. Through this connection, I found a calling to support others in their healing journeys, offering them the same level of trust, insight, and compassion that transformed my own life. My mission now centers on helping individuals uncover their own intuitive wisdom, heal past traumas, and nurture the wounded parts of themselves, empowering them to step into lives of purpose and fulfillment.
Q: Is it really possible to explore and connect to one’s inner child as a means to facilitate healing and emotional growth and self-discovery? What does that look like?
Exploring and connecting with the inner child is a powerful gateway to personal growth and self-discipline. The inner child is the keeper of our most authentic truths, wisdom, and core beliefs — many of which were formed in childhood and continue to shape our experiences today. This part of us stores not only memories but also the emotional imprints that define how we perceive and react to the world. When we engage with the inner child, we tap into a deeper level of self-awareness, revealing hidden beliefs and emotional wounds that may unconsciously guide our thoughts, actions, and choices.
By connecting to the inner child, we can begin to understand the roots of our current vibrational state — the energy we emit based on how we feel and believe at our core. Since the inner child leads this vibrational state, the emotions, fears, or unhealed traumas stored in this part of us have a profound impact on the frequency we operate in daily life. If the inner child feels neglected, fearful, or unworthy, those unresolved emotions will lower our vibrational energy, attracting experiences that mirror those beliefs. Conversely, when we nurture, heal, and acknowledge the inner child, we elevate our frequency, aligning with more positive, supportive outcomes.
The laws of attraction are deeply intertwined with this process. As you shift your vibrational state by healing the inner child, you create space for new experiences that reflect this growth. By embracing the truths held within, you can reprogram outdated beliefs, bringing your desires into harmony with your internal state. Growth and self-discipline stem from this practice as well — by confronting the fears or unmet needs of the inner child, you develop the emotional resilience to make disciplined choices that serve your higher self. Through regular inner child work, you build a foundation of self-love, trust, and discipline, which not only transforms your inner world but also reshapes the external circumstances you attract.
This powerful alignment between your inner child and your conscious self allows for lasting growth, fostering greater self-discipline as you make choices that are more aligned with your true desires and highest potential. By healing the inner child, you unlock the ability to shift your reality and manifest the life you are truly meant to live.
Q: You refer to an ancient practice of Soul Retrieval…can you please explain what that means and how one can apply that in their own life?
Soul retrieval is a powerful healing practice rooted in shamanic traditions, designed to restore wholeness by reclaiming fragmented parts of the soul that may have been lost due to trauma or emotional distress. When we experience significant pain or suffering, whether physical, emotional or spiritual, parts of our soul can disassociate or become disconnected as a survival mechanism. This can leave individuals feeling incomplete, disconnected or lost.
Soul retrieval works by guiding the person through a deep, meditative journey, often with the assistance of a healer, to retrieve those lost soul fragments. Once these parts are reintegrated, individuals often experience a renewed sense of vitality, emotional clarity, and spiritual alignment. This practice is especially beneficial for those who have experienced repeated patterns of trauma, feeling stuck in life, or a sense of emptiness that cannot be filled by external means.
In essence, soul retrieval is about bringing the individual back to a state of inner wholeness, healing deep wounds, and reconnecting them to their authentic self, fostering greater emotional balance and spiritual growth.
Q: How do you guide couples to revitalize their relationships by addressing deep-seated issues and nurturing trust, communication, and intimacy, leading to a renewed and fulfilling partnership?
When working with couples, it’s crucial to address the wounds each individual carries from childhood. These early experiences often shape how they communicate, perceive conflict, and express their needs in relationships. Many couples unknowingly project unresolved childhood traumas and unmet emotional needs onto their partner, which can lead to misunderstandings, miscommunication, and a breakdown in trust. By exploring these wounds, both partners can gain deeper insight into how their past affects their current dynamics, allowing for more compassionate and effective communication.
Understanding childhood needs is particularly empowering for individuals within a relationship. When each person is able to recognize the unmet needs or traumas from their upbringing, they begin to understand the emotional triggers or patterns that may arise during conflicts or challenging moments with their partner. This self-awareness is the first step in learning how to fulfill personal needs, rather than relying on the other partner to meet them unconsciously. It moves the relationship dynamic from one of dependency or blame to one where both individuals take responsibility for their own healing and emotional well-being.
As each partner takes ownership of their personal needs and childhood wounds, the relationship begins to restore its natural balance. Instead of seeking validation or emotional fulfillment exclusively from the other, both partners can approach the relationship from a place of wholeness. This balance creates a healthier dynamic where there is space for individual growth, as well as mutual support, fostering deeper emotional intimacy.
By addressing childhood wounds, couples also rebuild the foundation of trust. With clearer communication, rooted in understanding both their own and their partner’s childhood influences, they are better equipped to navigate conflicts with empathy and patience. Trust flourishes when each partner feels seen and heard, and when the relationship becomes a safe space for healing. This deeper understanding of oneself and one another strengthens the bond, allowing the relationship to evolve from old, conditioned patterns into one based on genuine connection, mutual respect, and lasting love.
Q: Lastly, when someone is feeling stuck in life, but not sure of the root causes or what to about it…what advice would you give them as a starting point?
If someone is feeling stuck in life and unsure of the root causes, the best place to start is by exploring the inner child. The inner child holds deep insights into the beliefs, emotional patterns, and unresolved wounds that often contribute to feeling stuck or blocked. When we feel stagnant or unsure of our direction, it’s typically because there are underlying emotional needs or traumas from childhood that remain unaddressed.
The first step is to create space for self-reflection and awareness. Begin by asking yourself key questions related to childhood: What were some of my early experiences that left lasting emotional imprints? Were there times when I felt unloved, unseen, or unheard? What did I need most as a child that I didn’t receive? These reflections can reveal patterns or beliefs that are still influencing your thoughts, behaviors, and choices today. Often, the ways we cope as adults — whether through avoidance, perfectionism, or fear — are rooted in the survival mechanisms developed as children.
Next, it’s important to approach these memories and emotions with compassion. Your inner child represents a vulnerable part of yourself that may have felt neglected, rejected, or misunderstood. By acknowledging and validating those feelings, you begin to heal the wounds that may be causing stagnation in your life. Connecting with the inner child through journaling, meditation or visualization exercises allows you to listen to what this part of you truly needs to feel safe and empowered.
Once you understand these deeper needs, you can take steps to reparent your inner child. This means giving yourself the love, support, and security that may have been missing during childhood. By meeting these emotional needs in the present, you begin to shift your internal energy, which opens up new possibilities for growth and change. The inner child plays a crucial role in your vibrational state, and when you heal and nurture this part of yourself, you raise your frequency and start to attract more aligned and fulfilling opportunities into your life.
Lastly, be patient with yourself. The process of uncovering and healing inner child wounds can take time, but with each step, you’ll gain more clarity about the root causes of feeling stuck and how to move forward. Trust that by connecting with your inner child, you’ll begin to unlock the insights and wisdom needed to realign your life and create the outcomes you desire.
Q: Thank you for this conversation! Where should readers go to learn more about your work?
You may also enjoy reading Nurturing and Vulnerability: The Power of Healing Our Wounded Child, by Ron Baker.
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