Understanding and directing your energy will help you achieve your personal and professional goals — here are 10 steps to follow
Have you ever noticed that when you want to achieve something and really focus on it, it feels like a tornado pulling you into the vortex of action? Things start moving along very quickly. It feels as if something bigger than you is moving you in the direction of the ‘it’ you want to manifest. This is energy.
I have experienced several incidences like this in my life and I have to say they are magical. I believe anyone can achieve anything they want. It simply starts with a decision and a commitment to becoming the future version of yourself that you want to become. The only thing holding you back from achieving what you desire is you. It is important to start with setting your mind straight and making sure you have support systems in place. I have found that a hidden secret is to focus on the feeling of what it will be like when you achieve your goal.
I tell my clients that energy flows to where your focus goes. I often tell them that if they want something badly enough, they can have it; if they do not currently have it, it is because they are not focusing on it.
Sometimes you can get caught up in the ‘how’ or the logistics of making it happen, but it is not really about that. It is really about taking the small steps that will eventually construct your future self. It is about deciding that this goal is paramount over everything else. When you decide you want something, you have already given energy to it in the form of thought. You have already started creating your new reality.
Let’s take an example of a client who wants her business to transition from being a hobby to being a viable business. She has been selling her product to individuals in her community for the past three years, but now wants to earn more and grow her audience. When we worked on the desired future version of her business, we mapped out what is currently happening in her business that would support that goal. She was very eager to jump ahead and strategize about new programs and new products, but I had a different agenda. I wanted to map out her daily activities and her daily schedule. Once we did that, I noticed that she was spending most of her time working at odd and unstructured times on her business, a habit that totally depleted her of energy. I also pointed out that her partner was not really supportive in words or actions about this business. He would often say, “Why are you spending your time working instead of being with the kids.” This made her feel badly about herself, which in turn made her stay ‘in the closet’ about her business. She felt like she always had to hide the fact that she was working. This is not the type of environment that supports growing a business. Energy is not likely to flow freely to it.
It was obvious to me that she needed to get intentional about her business. I suggested that she create a weekly calendar and block out hours that she would dedicate to working to promote her business. All other times, she could do whatever she wanted. Then, I asked her to hold a family meeting and show everyone the calendar. You see, if you want your business to grow, you will need your family’s support. The best way to get your family onboard of your cause is to share with them your plan and your goals. Then, you should write out the plan and put it somewhere for everyone to see and access. My client ended up creating a weekly calendar on a piece of paper and hung it on the refrigerator. Simple. Once it is displayed for everyone to see, it becomes a fact. Nobody can argue with it. If a family member wanted to spend time with my client, they were sent to refer to the calendar.
Growing your business means you have to give it space to grow — much like a person, a pet or a plant. You have to get intentional about its growth, which means you also have to know yourself very well. If you are unclear about your habits — which times of day you are most energetic, when you get tired, when you are most productive, what you like to do, what you hate doing, what makes you happy, what your strengths are, what you value and why you want your business to succeed — you need to have a sit down session with yourself. Be honest with yourself on paper and make it real, so your eyes can see and your mind can process the blueprint you are creating for yourself.
Your blueprint is your ticket to achieving anything. It does not matter whether you want to create a change in your life, achieve something in business, or to pursue a new relationship. I often ask someone who wants to find a partner for the long term why she keeps dating men who do not want to commit. I always ask my sister, who gets stressed out about her house always being messy, why she keeps trying to organize the house if she hates organizing so much. I often asked myself how smoking cigarettes fits into the healthy, active, wellness advocate, future version of myself I wanted to embody. It did not fit the picture of myself at all, so I simply quit one day because it no longer made sense to me. But to arrive at this conclusion, I had to map out my life and find the discrepancies between where I am today and where I wanted to be.
Follow these 10 steps if you want energy to flow towards your goals.
Dream big! Manifesting and achieving does not happen over night, but it will start to happen magically when you make a decision. I believe everything is possible. You just have to focus and allow the energy to flow to the places that will best serve your purpose:
- Decide what you want – Make a decision that you want something and start imagining you are already there. What would you say and how would it feel if you have already achieved this goal?
- Visualize – Sit down and meditate. Yes, meditate. Ask yourself, “What do I need to do in order for this to manifest in my life?” Set a timer for 5 minutes and incrementally increase the minutes. Sit silently and breathe. Thoughts will come in an out, allow them to come in and then focus again on your breath.
- Brain dump – Write out all of the steps you will have to take in order for this to happen. This may take you several times, days or weeks. There is no need to rush; the process is more important than the end goal. Do not feel as if you have to rush to get there. As you mediate, more information will come to you.
- Start acting – Create a written blueprint of your life and note your habits, the people in your life, your living situation, and anything else that comes up. Are these pieces of your life supporting your goals? If nothing will change in your life, would you still be able to achieve your goal?
- Give yourself a due date – Realistically, by when do you think you can achieve your goal? I think it is important to give yourself a short term, achievable goal with a due date that is around ninety days from when you begin. If you give yourself two years, it will be easy to give up when things get tough. You may not be able to achieve 100% of the goal, but you might be able to achieve 20% of it in 90 days. When you see your progress, it will motivate you to push forward with your mission.
- Get real with yourself – Which things do you need to cut out of your life in order for you to succeed? This may pertain to habits, family members or friends. This does not have to be forever, but in order for you to achieve, you will have to focus only on the things that matter. My mentor, Adrienne Dorrison, calls it ‘all the things’. She says you can’t do ‘all the things’ if you want this one thing. For example, if you want to become a real estate agent in 3 months, you will have to take an exam in order to get your license. You will have to take a course and study for the exam. If you want to pass the exam, you will have to study. You may have to forgo doing other things like going out with friends, doing the dishes or anything else that will take your focus and energy away from achieving this specific thing in 3 months. Again, this is only until you achieve your goal and does not have to be a complete lifestyle change. Honor your own pace and your own way of doing things.
- Involve those who are important to you – Tell the people who are closest to you about your plan, so that they will support you and cheer you on with your mission. Ask them to support you by telling them what you will not be able to focus on at the moment and what is important for you to focus on.
- Schedule – if it is not in your calendar, it does not exist. Organize your brain dump list into monthly, weekly and daily goals. Sit down and do the work and I promise you will be so happy that you did this. Do not leave any room to guess and minimize the decisions you will have to make when you execute plan. Yes, this might change along the way, but if you have a basic plan laid out, it will be easier for you to execute. It will be more difficult for you to make excuses for not taking action.
- Journal – Write down things that come up for you along the way. How do you feel when you achieve things and how do you feel when you are stuck? Write down your vision, because as you move forward, your vision may change. Write down how you want to feel and track your thoughts. You may find some thoughts whirling around your mind that do not support your mission. This exercise will create a more conscious version of you.
- Celebrate your wins – You must celebrate your wins and milestones no matter how small they are. Do things that make you feel good as a way to celebrate your progress. Give yourself incentives. Say to yourself, “if I finish this one thing by the end of the week, I will reward myself with [insert that reward].”